Another Inspiring Love story..

Recently I always came across very inspiring and meaningful short stories... Here is another one..

Mr & Mrs XYZ walked into the marriage life for almost two years already. Mr. XYZ is a DSLR fan where he likes to capture the beautiful images of people around him. Even their own family portrait and wedding photo were taken by himself. Mr. XYZ loves Mrs. XYZ so much that he won't say no to all the requests from his Mrs... He tries to satisfy all her needs. Unfortunately Mrs. XYZ is someone with bad-temper and likes to throw her anger on him. No matter what, Mr. XYZ still loves her so much. One day, Mrs XYZ's best friend made a special request from Mr. XYZ to be the photographer for their wedding in the next 2 weeks time. Mr. XYZ refuse to do so because he doesn't want to. But Mrs. XYZ feels that it is such a shame and thinks that his husband is not giving face to his best friend. So, she started cold war and throwing her emotions to him everyday. One day, Mr. XYZ came back and before the wife could start another mouth war, he told her that he wants a divorce. Mrs XYZ thought he is just kidding and continue scolding him. Suddenly, Mr, XYZ took out a photo of a girl from his pocket and said " I have someone in my heart, this person is quite pretty and most importantly she is so supportive and won't force me to do anything, Why don't you have a look on her?". This time, she break out and slapped him. Mr. XYZ did not say a word but went to sleep straight. In the middle of the night, the sad and disappointed MRs. XYZ was thinking about the sweet past that they have been together and she went to his husband's side and look for th picture. She wanted to know what kind of girl that makes her marriage a total gone. She burst into tears when she saw the picture was actually herself.. She later realized how wrong she was to force her husband doing things that he doesn't want to. She gave a light kiss on the forehead of his husband and at this time, Mr. XYZ open his eyes and hug her into his arms and said, I WILL ALWAYS LOVE U, DEAR!!

Love is on appreciating and accepting all the good and bad about a person. When you have decided on him/her, try your maximum best to be committed to it and love him/her...

I don't give a damn anymore...

No more tears..

No more upset alone..

No more asking you to do this and that..

I will never care so much anymore..

I can still survive on my own..

I have so many people that care for me..

I won't sad anymore for people that don't know how to appreciate me..

Up to you what you wanna do..

Up to you how you treat our promises...

Coz I won't give a damn anymore..

Please don't regret...

Love's Best friend is Honesty...

Hiding your true self is really something hard.. It is not something easy, at least not to me. I am those that will need to speak and burst out everything in my mind. For me, to keep quiet when I know something is not right makes me like a great sinner. I think of it all the time and it makes feel really sad and lost. I couldn't believe that this happens to me too.. I really wanted to find out the truth and be very frank to him. I know it is not a healthy thing to be dishonest to each other in a relationship. I hope he can be honest to me this time and hopefully the outcome is favourable. I really can't wait to solve it at tis minute too because I really cannot stand the pain anymore. Please don't cheat me anymore.. It hurts so much...

Lost and Found...

I am lost..

I don't know what to do..

What is the right thing to do?

Afraid of taking the wrong step..

I want to follow my heart..

I guess that is what the most appropriate one..

Love and Marriage...

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!

That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her! With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again. In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage. This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her. On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad.

On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore. She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart. That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband.... The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy.

Do have a real happy marriage! If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you. If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.

A CHRIST-CENTERED MARRIAGE IS A MARRIAGE THAT IS SURE TO LAST A LIFETIME.

So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate. Matthew 19:6.

By Stephanie Halmilton

And the story continues..

• You know how it feels when you are someone that is impatient but yet you need to wait for something always. It makes you feel that you are forever waiting. I think one day I will be immune and it might not be something good I guess...
• I am happy because I thought I finally get some effort from him but actually it is just a reminder that you asked someone to do... Total disappointment..
• Yesterday I heard a really inspiring theory from Peter. He says that actually all this while we have been mistreating relationship. Why we can live so happily during the not-yet relationship period, this is because we don't have a relationship at that time which will in return doesn't place much expectations on each other. So, when we get into a relationship, we will tend to set an expectations or standard for each other to achieve and when any party couldn't meet up to the expectations, then conflict will occur. So, in order to continue a relationship, we need to think it as no relationship. Treat each other like before. Got relationship= no relationship theory. Generally I agree with the theory which I think it's a new perspective of thinking about relationship but for me, if I did not place any expectations towards him, then what is his difference with other people. I think basic type of duty and action should be done.
• He says he need more time, so as what I have promised myself, I will give him more time and he won't get anymore disturbance from me...
• Quoted from Wai San, "Love is not finding someone to live with. It's finding someone you can't live without". I thought I found one already but I really doubt now that is he feeling the same towards me.. If he does, I don't think he still need time to think about his dream future...

A dream future without me or a simple future with my company?

What do you want? It is 10 days since you replied my mail and 4 freaking days since we chatted. Or I should ask, what do I want? Why I am so desperate? People is not so worried, why are you so gan jeong.. I really hate myself for being like that. Why should I be so depress and checking out every minute to see whether he is on9 anot? Who knows he is enjoying himself so much while I am the only silly one that cares so much.. I should enjoy myself to the max coz if he does not appreciate me, then it is totally his lost... Be stronger and firmer this time...

A nice phrase that I have created few days ago,

" A dream future without me or a simple future with my company? "

Stronger..

I really hate myself so much. Hate myself being too weak. I can actually live on my own. Why I can't just keep him out of my mind. I can't be any stricter. I said we will only contact after a while, every time I wanted to show him that I am angry by not contacting him, it won't last long.. Just 2days after we chatted and I feel like leaving him a comment. He promised to reply my mail since last Wed, and he is off this 2 days, but I haven't received any reply. I don't think he will reply me by today, it will be a waste only waiting for it, checking it every minute because he is now having fun with his "friends".. Who i am to him? I don't think it is really as important as I thought. I don't care who is reading this, but in fact I don't think there's reader for this dull blog. Haih.. Please be stronger la, Shermaine Chan.. It will only bring sorrow and disappointment to yourself. So please be rational la.. Accept the fact...

Decisions to leave or not?

When a couple has very different thinking in their dream future, lots of unavoidable conflict will arise. Willing or not we need to face it. The saddest part is the dream future is being too practical ( logical ) or even being too sentimental.. Generally guys do the thinking and girls control the emotion. But why can't we make it balance. It is not an easy task. Coz we know the formation of guys and girls in terms of thinking is very different. Girls always think of the relationship but guys only will be too practical. Then, it is more rational that they just live their live with all the money and luxury. Is money above everything? Haih. i don't worth that much? Now waiting for the answer and I am feeling unfair because he is the one that make decision. Can't he think from my side? You can leave your family all including me? But I don't think I can be that cruel..

Missing you..

I am missing you so much.. Can you think of other way to fix it? I really couldn't imagine the no communication life with you.. Feel so torturing.. Stupid line..

The Injured throat and heart

Haih.. I really hate this. My throat is getting worse after Saturday night. I now can hardly talk and if I talk also the voice is so unacceptable. It is something very suffering for me, someone who likes to talk. I am having hard time to control myself and avoiding myself to talk more. This is to prevent it to getting even worse. I am drinking tonnes of water and tried my best to take care dy. I hope 2molo will be better because I need to go for another partime job briefing. Now just cross my fingers, hoping for the best.

Another thing is I really couldn't imagine a most developed country like US can tolerate with this internet service that sucks till this extend. Even the worse Streamyx here will be far better than them. Is this a test? To test my patience or the faith between us. I seriously cannot see the pros of unable to contact each other la. Stupid line... Blardy hate you... Just because I miss you..